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The destructive path of perfectionism

Perfectionism: it was the topic of discussion for my best friend and I this morning- we both have this incessant desire for perfection- to the be perfect wife, sister, mother, friend, and disciple. While it is good to desire to excel and have goals, we both find that when we fall short of our goal, we change. In short, we don’t handle failure well. This causes us to feel out of control and say or do things we otherwise wouldn’t, puts us in a grouchy funk of negativity where we can’t seem to get out of the dark corners of our minds. We laugh and joke about this struggle with one another because we both know the concept of perfection is not a reality. No one human being is perfect. And this unhealthy obsession with perfection affects us both in personal relationships and in the workplace- who wants to be around a grump? Heck- when I get in these moods,I don’t even want to be around myself. Truth is, if perfection is what we are after, to the point where we get irritable and feel out of control, what are we saying to God? Are we sending a clear message that we are more into our own will, our own agenda, than His good and perfect will? I for one do not want to go there. I am reminded of one of my favorite pieces of scripture, 2 Corinthians 12:9-10 But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.

See, if my friend and I put our blinders on and fixate on our vision of perfection whether it be cooking the perfect dinner, the perfect body, perfect plans, then are we saying we don’t need Jesus? Jesus came and lived a perfect life because we can’t. And because we are incapable, there is only one place this ideal comes from- the enemy himself, because once the perfectionism sets in, it’s only a matter of time before something does not go “as planned” and causes me to feel out of control- and once I feel out of control then the anger and frustration set it; none of which comes from God. Our Father is a God of peace and love, and while it’s good to have goals and aim to please God, we have to remember to accept and live by His will and stay in his light, and know that we are loved, flaws and all. I feel so incredibly blessed to have these Godly conversations with the best friend a girl could ask for, and to be able to laugh, cry, and pray our way through our difficulties together. My prayer for you is to find someone to share your heart with, a close friend that you can relate to and share the love of God with, rejoicing when you find the glory of God in times of trial. image

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